Somebody posts a ‘
Do you remember when xyz’ item on Facebook and I
begin to experience joy.
I go for a beer with my old (familiar and old – LOL)
and we natter and we become very enthusiastic about ‘
the time when….’
Good old feelings arise.
Actually most of what we remember wasn’t
quite like that.
We have confabulated elements of our memories. We shrunk them down, bits fell
off and we stowed them away in our unconsciousness - be there such a place. Just
like a zipped down file on a computer storage device. When we pulled the
memories back out again the original events weren’t like that but we got to feel
something that resembled a recollection – a re COLLECTION – of feelings
They are just feelings and repeatedly running the memories will initially
intensify the joy (or whatever your emotion is) and then the intensity will
transform into a different set of feelings or will dissipate.
In point of fact most bad memories got bad through practice – BAD PRACTICE!
and
most good memories got good through practice – GOOD PRACTICE!
It’s
all Practice, practice, practice – whatever you practice, you will get skilled
at
I may be misquoting him but Richard Bandler
has said
“The best thing about the past is that it is over”.
Thinking about it that way and I have to agree.
It is how we experience
what’s left behind that is important and what is left behind is not the actual
event but a printed memory; an imprint. That’s emotional.
There may be physical scarring or damage but the emotional stuff is running
the show.
PTSD – Post-traumatic stress disorder, no matter the event is the reaction to
memories, even if it (the feelings) are suppressed. There are things that can be
done using eye movement to change the emotional impact. I use Integral Eye
Movement Therapy and I’ve watched the inexplicable occur as I’ve used it. I was
so fascinated by it that trained to become a trainer in it!
For me Bad memories tend to lose their impact and I can keep reducing the
intensity by repeating a bad memory in my mind and reducing the emotional impact
deliberately. That’s not denial. It’s Adjustment! Just like using knobs and
dials on a control panel.
Remember, whatever you resist will persist. Its
change that is required not denial.
My control panel, is my mind:
I can change the pictures that I see in my mind
Push images away, shrink
them down, and increase the size of images from good memories of the same
event.
Change the where I see them to different positions
Turn sounds up
and down.
Change the sounds of people’s voices – their tonality, the words
they use. Make them sound like Mickey Mouse
I can change the intensity of the
feeling – damp it down, crank it up.
I can change the words that I use to
describe the event.
There really isn’t much that I can’t do in my mind, ask any
good Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.
It really is like the old gag:
“Its mind over matter – if you
don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”
There is also changing the enquiry you are having about the past:
If you don’t like the answer you get, ask a better question!
And I can move my eyes in differing patterns while I remember the
event and experience it changing.
What limits our experience is how we use our mind and our body. The ‘use’ is
our spirit – how we inspire ourselves.
It’s Mind, Body, Spirit,
Practice and Communication
#JustSaying
“Confabulation (verb: confabulate) is a memory disturbance, defined as the
production of fabricated, distorted or misinterpreted memories about oneself or
the world, without the conscious intention to deceive.[1] Confabulation is
distinguished from lying as there is no intent to deceive and the person is
unaware the information is false …..