Whilst the bar man is pours the pint, he sees a dish full of peanuts sitting on the counter. As he looks, the peanuts say to him “you’re nice”. The man, surprised by what he just heard, sinks down into a seat next to the cigarette machine. As he does so , the cigarette machine says to him “you’re horrible”
Astonished by what he just heard, he tells the bar man, who explains:
“That’s ok sir, the peanuts are always complementary and the cigarette machine is out of order”
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"What distinguishes the majority of men from the few is their ability to act according to their beliefs"
~ Henry Miller
Born December 26, 1891 died June 7, 1980
American novelist and painter.
He wrote novels containing fiction, autobiography, social criticism, philosophical reflection, surrealist free association, and mysticism.
Author of Tropic of Cancer (1934), Black Spring (1936), and Tropic of Capricorn (1939)
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There was once a snail who was sick and tired of his reputation for being so slow. He decided to get some fast wheels to make up the difference. After shopping around a while, he decided that the Datsun 240-Z was the car to get. So the snail goes to the nearest Datsun dealer and says he wants to buy the 240-Z, but he wants it repainted "240-S".
The dealer asks, "Why 'S'?"
Well, the dealer doesn't want to lose the unique opportunity to sell a car to a snail, so he agrees to have the car repainted for a small fee.
The snail gets his new car and spent the rest of his days roaring happily down the highway at top speed. And whenever anyone would see him zooming by, they'd say "Wow! Look at that S-car go!"
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Henry Miller
That’s one entity with 2 perspectives or at least that’s my story.We didn't, we took the train!Do you remember going the the Ally Pally ‘Love-in’ in Pat’s Austin Westminster?
We can’t of done! We went to Waterloo Station first and drove up to Wood Green.
That wasn't Waterloo! That was Charing Cross and we caught the tube!
A good friend will bail you out of jail.
A great friend will be in the cell next to you saying,"Wow, that was fun!"
Source various
I am sure that sometimes scriptwriters write gems without realising it.
Here is one from the TV series Eli Stone
“A gift is something that is given, you don’t own it.
The World does.
The World is asking you to use it
and you don’t get to say no,
no matter how much you might want to”~ Eli Stone
I appreciate the sentiment. I believe it is our job to contribute and serve and to receive an appropriate reward for doing so.
American TV series and name of the title character, played by Scot, Jonny Lee Miller.
Eli Stone is a lawyer in San Francisco, who suffers from a brain aneurysm which causes him to have visions, usually about the future and which lead him to take on cases where he is of best use and morally right.
His predictions save lives and he becomes a recognised prophet in his community.
The series was created by Greg Berlanti and Marc Guggenheim and aired on ABC from January 2008 through to July 2009.
It is currently being broadcast by Sky, in the UK.
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The problem with Tweeting is the amount of characters available to you
at 140 it is even less than a SMS (mobile phone text message)!
So, how then, can one use Tweets to be able to influence somebody?
There has been a long debate as to whether Hypnosis exists or if it is all just suggestion.
In hypnosis one seeks to influence.
Using the style of Milton Erickson one can be Artfully Vague so that the subject fills in the elements as the hypnotist suggests
for example … “Now, I don’t know if you are thinking of the sky or even if there are clouds or even if the sun is high in the sky or how bright it may be….”
The Hypnotist does not actually know what the subject is thinking about.
Nevertheless, the hypnotist has suggested that the subject think of a bright sunny day. He cant make the subject think of those things but there is a good chance that the subject will.
The fact the Hypnotist goes on to describe what may be in the sky presupposes that there is a sky and the subject is thinking about it.
There are all manner of techniques to suggest tings to a subject, you only have to look a TV ads to get that!
Look at the adverts for Smokers Patches or gum where words like “… the next time you…” are used. No presupposition or suggestion there then!
One can Analogue Mark out certain words or phrases by pausing slightly before uttering them – the subject’s unconscious mind will pick up the difference whilst their rational mind will push on making sense of the words.
Lowering the tone of voice as words are spoken can command the subject to follow
for example “As you sit there you can |relax now |…. ”
Again the unconscious picks up the commands whilst the conscious continues to make sense of the words.
It is ambiguous. One meaning is processed one way by the conscious and another meaning processed by the unconscious.
There are many techniques, these are just some.
Oh yes … I digressed!
So, how then, can one use Tweets to be able to influence somebody?
Or did I?
I opened a loop, a while ago to preoccupy your conscious mind and now I have just closed it.
If I wanted to, I could nest loops inside of loops. All designed to preoccupy the conscious mind, whilst I make suggestions to the unconscious mind. Actually, I stacked 2 loops together – note how Ambiguity, appearing in the blog post title was incomplete until I described how the words |relax now | were being used.
Ever had a friend who said “We must go for a drink and catch up….” ?
They never book a time. Notice how that hangs around because it is incomplete. It is an open loop.
Now, here’s the problem.
How can you embed suggestions successfully into a 140 character tweet?
A local United Way office realized that the organization had never received a donation from the town's most successful lawyer. The person in charge of contributions called him to persuade him to contribute.
"Our research shows that out of a yearly income of at least $700,000, you give not a penny to charity. Wouldn't you like to give back to the community in some way?"
Embarrassed, the United Way rep mumbled, "Um ... no."
The lawyer interrupts, "or that my brother, a disabled veteran, is blind and confined to a wheelchair?"
The stricken United Way rep began to stammer out an apology, but was interrupted again.
"or that my sister's husband died in a traffic accident," the lawyer's voice rising in indignation, "leaving her penniless with three children?!"
The humiliated United Way rep, completely beaten, said simply, "I had no idea..."
On a roll, the lawyer cut him off once again, "So if I don't give any money to them, why should I give any to you?"
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In the end we only regret chances we didn't take.The relationships we were scared to have and the decisions we waited too long to make. There comes a time in your life when you realise who matters, who doesn't, who never did and who always will
This is actually a name of a Facebook group and as of 18th November, 2011 there were 1,314,777 people who liked the page and 7,367 who are talking about it.
Apart from that there are no other entries on the page.
I guess it says it all
According to Yahoo Answers, Irlanda reports that the quote is incomplete and should say:
"In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take, the relationships we were scared to have and the decisions we waited too long to make. There comes a time in your life when you realise who matters, who doesn't, who never did and who always will. So don't worry about the people from your past, there's a reason they didn't make it to your future"
Bio-nana121 reports finding the phrase at http://gothgirl.glogster.com/In-The-End/ but that link is broken
Wikipedia and Wikiquote don’t register it and shareaquote don’t attribute it either
A Truism and a Mystery
It was my pleasure to be ChatviewedTM by The English Sisters on 14th November.
They are very skilled Hypnotists, with their very own and unique Hypnorambling style so I guess it was inevitable that we would end up with a Trance Out . After all, Hypnotists do love to practice!
I’d like to say that I won, but I can’t remember
Find the English Sisters at http://www.englishsisters.com/ and http://www.hypnoramblings.com/
You can find their upcoming book at http://amzn.to/uB5M0c
I noticed an old man sitting on a park bench sobbing his eyes out. I stopped and asked him what was wrong.
He told me, “I have a 22 year old wife at home. She rubs my back every morning and then gets up and makes me pancakes, sausage, fresh fruit and freshly ground coffee”
I continued, “Well, then why are you crying?”
I said, “Well, why are you crying?”
He said, “For dinner she makes me a gourmet meal with wine and my favourite dessert and then we cuddle until the small hours”
I inquired, “Well then, why in the world would you be crying?”
He replied, “I can't remember where I live”
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You don't have to run a big business, fly a balloon, or break records in a boat to learn from and use the lessons I learned. Your goal can be small. Student magazine was very small at first. I sold space in it from a payphone at school because I believed I could and would do it. If something is what you really want to do, just do it. Whatever your goal is you will never succeed unless you let go of your fears and fly
~ Richard Branson
Many times I have heard BE the change and not DO the change.
Whereas I agree, that all change starts with a change of BEhaviour or a change in the way we are (being), when it comes to NLP, we very much focus on what people DO.
If what they DO works, then we can learn what they DO and install that in others that can benefit from DOing things that way. Its called eliciting strategies.
I was very interested to read Pam Castillo’s take on this; how the Kinesthetic does the work.
To understand this ask any top line sportsman how they achieve their precision and following on from a visualisation ahead of the play, they will feel the action as it happens ~ they feel the ball go into the net, the arrow into the target, the shot hit the target etc.
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by Pam Castillo
I answered the phone that morning as usual; “Clarity Institute, this is Pam. The high pitched female voice on the other end rushed through her formalities with lightening speed and garbled articulation “this is Asfansiasishisahheia Berhansiaisibdkditai (It could have been Anita Bertan or about a thousand other possibilities. I could not understand her).
Exasperated and breathy she continued at the same fast pace; “I got your name from Richard Bandler’s website, I’m an NLP trainer and yeah, so, what is the most powerful NLP tool to use?”
Silence reigned as my eyes darted from left to right back and forth once or twice, my head tilted to the side as I wondered if I heard correctly - or - had I slipped into some alternate reality? You know, that place where time and space seem to separate and nothing and everything exist simultaneously confusing.
And then with the callers same lightening speed, I quipped back with one word. “Yes.”
A simple, well crafted statement to match the caller and the silliest question I’ve think I’ve ever been asked.Her voice now had a slower pace, a deeper tone, a skipping, hesitating articulation and just as I planned, I calibrated a confusion as she spoke next: “uh- wha, what do you mean?”
And that’s when the call turned from comical to critical.
I asked her what was important to her about knowing *the most powerful NLP tool* . She told me it was “because I have a client coming here in less than an hour and I want to use THE most powerful tool of NLP to get the change.”
Let’s be clear. NLP has never been about the tools. I’ve heard Richard [Bandler] say many times, It’s not about the tools.
Yes, the tools and techniques of NLP are powerful, everyone of them is richly powerful. What makes them powerful, is the ability to connect. To connect to the unconscious process that is happening inside someone else's neurology. To connect at such rapid speeds that you can be a step ahead or more of someone else’s thinking and your own thinking so that you can make the decision while having extrasensory timing, a timing that others have not yet discovered. That is where one knows how and where to go next in making the desired changes.
That’s the edge a well trained and confident NLP’er has. That’s the power of NLP. It’s in the ability to connect to one’s unconscious mind and that of another’s to understand the neurology of what’s taking place to create and reveal which NLP tool to use and knowing why.
This happens so fast that if feels as natural as it does to say your own name. It happens organically, and withOut planning. It happens with talent, with experience and with a solid foundation of NLP. And it happens from having that “Go First” experience of consistently walking the walk and talking the talk of using NLP - every day in every way, to become the best you, you can be, long before you start a training career.
There is something metaphysically beautiful about watching a well trained and confident NLP’er with a solid foundation of skills -skills that have been installed.
NOT taught like school, but someone who actually learned NLP by experiencing NLP with the NLP learning process as Dr. Richard Bandler developed.
It’s experiential and in my opinion, does not come from books or home study programs. When you really learn something it becomes part of every fibre of your being and it’s ageless, timeless and generative.
The call referenced here is an actual call I got this month.
I get these types and similar phone calls throughout the year. Year after year. I occasionally get students that enroll in my courses who are REtraining because their foundation is academic and not kinesthetic and they can nOt DO NLP.
Now whether it’s true or not, there is something of a magical energy a lot of people sense with respect to the creative genius and co-founder of NLP, Richard Bandler. I think there’s no coincidence that so many of these “help my NLP” calls start with “I got your name from The Society of NLP”.
NLP takes practice and the more you use it the better you get. It’s nOt about learning a bunch of things about NLP to teach the bones to others, it’s nOt about the jargon, the tools or the techniques. It’s about the ability to DO NLP and consistently get the results that makes the difference with confidence.
Pam Castillo is a Licensed NLP Trainer by the Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming – Richard Bandler. Pam founded Clarity Institute, where for more than 12 years, she maintains a private practice for NLP Changework on personal development issues, health and healing and loving relationships.
Clarity Institute offers NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification courses and NLP workshops on a variety of topics in the Los Angeles area.
Read more about Pam at http://bit.ly/APClarity
A woman calls her boyfriend for help with a killer jigsaw puzzle. She just can't figure out how to get it started.
H
er boyfriend asks: "What is it supposed to be when it's finished?"
The woman says: "According to the picture on the box, it's a rooster."She shows him the puzzle spread all over the table.He studies the pieces for a moment, looks at the box, then turns to her and says: "First of all, no matter what we do, we're not going to be able to assemble these pieces into anything resembling a rooster."
He takes her hand and says: "Second, I want you to relax.... let's have a nice cup of tea, and then.... he sighed, "...let's put all these Corn Flakes back in the box."
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"Money is the silent applause for a job well done"
~ Peter Thomson
I recently spent a weekend attending Peter’s Product Creation GOLDMINE – it was a great weekend and extremely valuable. Above is one of Peter’s many quotes but notice that he does express success in money terms, rather it is an acknowledgement of the success – this is a common trait amongst many successful entrepreneurs
I have been an NLP Practitioner since 2005 and progressed through the Society of NLP programme to Trainer in 2009 but my curiosity started in 1957.
My next door neighbour used to hold lots of dinner parties and his trick was to hypnotise one of his guests. I was 7 and I have a very vague recollection of seeing a bookpublished by Penguin books on his bookshelf. I was fascinated. He learnt how to hypnotise people from a book?
Time moved on and I became very successful in my life and my passion was Basketball: playing it, refereeing it, managing it, running committees to develop it ….. too much to do … too little time ….. and at some point I set my highest value at ‘Time’ and even, to this day, I run my ‘Time’ value programme when assessing most anything.How was I going to fit it all in? It will just have to go on a list until the time is right.
I love the feeling as I say “It’s Time” as the feeling rises up through my body and a state of excitement occurs when its time to do x from my list!
In 1998, I attended the Landmark Forum and went on to do their ‘Curriculum for living’. Coming out of that with a real load off! … I offloaded meaning by the ton….
There was all this stuff that meant stuff to me and all it was was stuff!
.. I had stuffed up my life with stuff that meant stuff to me …..
Landmark have this distinction that “Life is empty and meaningless and that doesn’t mean anything” and I Got It! ….. None of it meant anything to anybody other than me. It was my STUFF …. I STUFFED UP!
Suddenly without all that stuff and with a whole raft of distinctions around language and how I could interpret words and actions and so I went onto read (somebody else’s) stuff.
Read?! …… I hadn’t got time for that! Better put that on the list then with the other stuff!
I would read from the top left of a page to the bottom right on the next and think, what did I just read? and have to start again! … But NOW I was reading these great books and the 2, in particular that had me say “Wow!” to myself were: Louise L Hay’s “You can Heal Your Life” and Neale Donald Walsche’s trilogy: “Conversations with God”
There it all was! It was different to The Forum but it was the same. There was the confirmation. They were right!
My new philosophy for living was now set and still runs to this day:
There is only here, there is only now, it doesn’t mean anything, there is nothing in this nanosecond called now, life just occurs to me … and … Its Time … because I say
I describe this as Paradox Management and the Power of Nothing and it sits on a bed of language.
You see, Nothing is important (note the tonal ambiguity you can use pronouncing each of those words ) and in life we constantly have to manage paradoxes – things aren't what they seem and yet are so obviously what they are.
Life all about balance not happiness!!!!!
I saw John DeMartini talk and there it was again! …and that was his stuff … he gave examples of how life is always in balance and the design of things is to break down
For example: Things are going really well at work and yet life at home is crap … or … have you ever noticed that when that extra little bit of money comes along and you get excited at the thought of what you can do with it, you get a flat tyre …or… when somebody invites to an event that is really exciting, somebody else desperately needs your help at exactly the same time?
Stuff Up break DOWN
It’s the way life works, it tells you when Its Time. It just occurs
The norm is for people and parents , in particular, to say things like “Oh, well, as long as they are happy” and usually as an expectation for someone else, not themselves. I call that a death sentence!!
Someone else’s expectation has been bestowed on you to be happy – life balances out and so the best you can achieve is to be happy 50% of the time BUT the problem now comes that you have to monitor your ‘happiness performance’ to meet the expectation.
“Am I happy about this?” … “Do I have the right to be happy at a time like this” … and whilst all that serious ‘Happy monitoring’ is going on you can’t be happy. So, if , when you are happy, you check to see if you are happy, you have to stop being happy while you check ………. you’re STUFFed!
The 50% each way balance will probably end up ‘40% happy : 60% not’ ratio … and then .. people get unhappy about that! (and pile on more stuff!) At this point the Stuff, being so old by now, begins to rot down, smell and life becomes crap all because someone wanted you to be happy (?!?!?!?!?!?!?!)
Between 1998 and 2000, I doubled my salary and retired, I retired from the Basketball court in 1998 at the age of 48 – It Was Time! and there was Nothing, to stop me. I was in a Stuff free zone and the energy flowed – money is just another form of energy and there wasn’t any Stuff in its way, either.
I don’t do New Year’s resolutions but I do do New Year’s promises. If there is no stuff, then there is no stuff to resolve. There’s nothing so I can do anything.
So in 2001 my promise was to take 1 or 2 things from my list and DO them because It’s Time and there’s nothing to stop me. I’ve always wanted to do this stuff
2001 Golf and Yoga – did yoga for 7 years! Must dust the clubs off!
2002 What was my spirituality? What did I believe about God?
2003 ….
………..2005 “What am I going to do this year?” Hypnosis! Always wanted to do that! It’s Time I went for Hypnosis and NLP occurred to me and with it the consolidation of language skills
You see, Richard said to me “I find that you are good at getting good people to know you and to talk about you ... maybe you have something to share about that?”
I just did.
When you have control of your time with no stuff, energy flows and energy attracts ‘like energy’ and I like energy.
The finest energy in life is people energy.
Offload your crap, help them get rid of their crap, good people appear and life just occurs HAPPILY, all by itself.
from jokesgallery.com amongst others
A manager was complaining in a staff meeting that he wasn't getting any respect.
Later that morning he went out and got a small sign that read, "I'm the Boss".
He then taped it to his office door.Later that day when he returned from lunch, he found that someone had taped a note to the sign that said.
"Your wife called, she wants her sign back!"
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From Sean Malarkey’s ShareAQuote
"If we could sell our experience for what they cost us, we'd all be millionaires."
~ Abigail Van Buren
The pen name of Pauline Phillips who created the Dear Abby advice column in 1956 , run today by her daughter, Jeanne Phillips
The pen name, Abigail Van Buren, is a combination of Biblical figure, Abigail from the Book of Samuel and the surname of U.S. President Martin Van Buren.
Bio from wikipedia
Great pictures. As the author says :
"The world was beautiful before we touched it.
Now look what we've done.
I guess i just couldn't handle reality, so here I made my own."
Yeah, if they look to the left , they’re lying!”That was in the blog post from 5th August and so was
In "That's a Lie" we looked at what people do with their eyes, which means we can also quickly glean what is their prime sense. Whether it is Visual or Kinaesthetic or Auditory or Gustatory/Olfactory. 
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Arthur Partridge
I am overdue to post a joke to my blog. Would anybody like to guest blog one?
CLEAN PC please!
Matt Partridge Two cannibals eating a clown, one turns to other and says 'does this taste funny to you?' Boom boom tsch!!
Regular naps prevent old age, especially if you take them while driving
~ Unknown
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I told my wife that a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age.The next day, she locked me in the cellar.
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Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble
~ Frank Tyger
U.S. Nationally published editorial cartoonist, columnist and humourist for the Trenton Times -http://www.franktyger.info/frank-tyger-biography.htm
Sean Mallarkey’s shareaquote.com
Just so you know (Just Social Know) - I love ambiguity!
It allows me to do my job and talk in the unconscious mind of my client while their conscious mind works out which meaning to use. I can do that because I am an Expert! As it happens, a Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner, fast becoming a Social Media Coach, amongst other things
Social Media usage grows and with it, experts arise. So what is an “Expert”?
An expert is a person or entity that is recommended by a third party to you and then you either accept the third party’s judgement and agree that the person called the “Expert” is an expert or not.
Whether they have the knowledge to back up their expertise is not part of the the initial equation. That is second tranche
When you decide they are an expert, you then open up your listening and may be your mind, to their output.
I read a lot from and get advise from lots of Social Media experts and I am already seeing contradiction. It is inevitable and happens in every field of expertise. I wouldn’t trust any NLP Practitioner that didn’t question me!
What follows contradiction is confusion. However, installing confusion is a very useful state if you wish to influence someone. I use confusion when dealing with clients. Again, it preoccupies their conscious mind while I work on their unconscious state.
To my mind, Social Media is whatever you agree it to be with your network. Agreement is the key and your network is who you do it with - not the expert. You, with them, are the expert on your sociability!
I like Landmark Education’s thinking! I read it as Agreement first!
Even if there is no agreement, as they say “Having agreement in the face of no agreement”. Why do I mention this? Because Lack of Agreement = Assumption
If there is lack of agreement then assumption is all that's left and as they say
“Assumption makes an ass out of you and me!”
Assumption will eventually lead to breakdown and Breakdown will lead to Breakthrough and the cycle starts again, usually leaving casualties, .i.e. people left behind or jobless and much more severe states like poverty and starvation! *
* see below for how to be supportive
So, in the conflicting views that I get about Social Media and what it is supposed to be, I have to agree my values with my fellow posters or Tweeps.
Here, I go along with Thomas Power of Ecademy and Mick Say of Online Marketing Academy, amongst others. You have to
be Open, Random and Supportive
Social Media is a phenomena – it hasn’t happened before, we are in Social Revolution.
When Wikileaks broke the reaction of the UK Prime Minister, amongst others, was to close down his Twitter account (Closed Selective and Controlling) and not to to communicate in that way. He didn’t capitalise on the event, he shut down.
I think I understand why but what was the message? (In the face of no agreement, only assumption is left.)
If I choose, I can assume that I am not to be trusted with what he knows. That it is not for my ears and I am just not that important enough – I can make up almost any negative reason I like.
The point is there is no agreement so assumption is the only alternative.
I agree with Daniel Priestley’s view that we are migrating from The Industrial Revolution to The Social Revolution.
The Industrial Revolution has led to Business needing controls, selecting what it outputs to protect its image or brand, having controls in place to keep its design intact, managed by systems!
At some point Customer Processing transformed into the misnomer Customer Service – Tweeps and Peeps our needs are being processed through systems not relationships. Businesses are having closed relationships with us.
Socially, never before has the individual had so much clout to change business, society, politics - you name it - so quickly!
Socially, never before has an individual had the clout to promote their cause, beliefs, values - you name it - so quickly!
He says, “Let the dataset change the Mind Set” and refers to the broadband of our senses, where Visual and Kinaesthetic input lead the charge.
Social media uses our senses and Visual and Kinaesthetic are high impact!
We are amidst a social revolution which some businesses have capitalised and most politicians have not.
Now I believe there is a danger that business will try to own Social Media and determine what it is and so will politics (Control)
The recent UK Riots has seen Politics try to restrict Social Media – Good luck with that, by the way – as if Social Media is to blame for the rioting (Closed Selective and Controlling). 
No Agreement = No Clout = Assumption = Breakdown = Influence = Clout = Revolution
With the velocity that Social Media has, there is very little point in being Closed Selective and Controlling, any more. It won’t work!
So the information super highway has evolved into the Social Super Highway and influence is the key to success. Influence can only happen through Relationships (Kinaesthetic) and Relationships function inside of community (Social Networks).
The relationships require sensual input. Taking Sensual bandwidths as the priorities for influencing me with your Social output, you need to stimulate me with :
Visual input See http://aypee.wordpress.com/2011/08/05/thats-a-lie/
It is pointless to add control to the process!
No Agreement = No Clout = Assumption = Breakdown = Influence = Clout
= Revolution = <<Open, Random Supportive>>+ <<Closed Selective and Controlling>>
= No Agreement = No Clout = Assumption = Breakdown = Influence = Clout = Revolution = <Open, Random Supportive>> again
and without control
That's my brand but only if you agree
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Doctor, doctor, I feel like a 10 Dollar note.Well go and buy something then,
the change will do you good
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"Doing nothing is very hard to do ... you never know when you're finished"
~ Leslie Nielsen
Sadly Leslie Nielsen died last year . Incredible (almost childish) humour but what a role model for life. Energetically happy and inciting happiness in others.
Surely this is the end of an era – “Don’t call me shirley!”
Picture from Wikipedia
“God does not ask your ability, nor your inability. God only asks your availability”~ Mary Kay Ash
founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics
It was Woody Allen who said "80 per cent of success is just showing up".
Over the years I have had many ‘almost appointments’ - appointments where a potential client wants help with their problem but as soon as it comes to booking a time, those fearful words: “I’ll look at my diary and get back to you” are uttered and of course, I know that they won’t (Yet!)
However, they should be congratulated on taking a first step towards confronting their fear – because that is what it is and fear as Neale Donald Walshe says is
“False Evidence Appearing Real”
The tragedy is that by not showing up wherever the things that confront you, deprives you off an experience that is no where near as scary as you may think and if I get to play with you ( FUN! When I say Play I mean play time ) we are going to have fun!
We all have Fear of some description. It is part of survival and shouldn’t be taken lightly!
However, Just showing up in the place of fear, as opposed to confronting fear allow for easy and effortless and permanent changes to happen.
Clearly work has to be done but it is how it is done that is the most important element of all. Lets try ….
FUN!
There are common fears, such as the fear of Public Speaking, the fear of Heights, the fear of Snakes, the fear of Spiders
There are many ways to dispel fear. The most famous is the Fast Phobia Cure which can be used to combat simple fears also.
It is painless and usually very amusing to the client – basically we re-programme how they use the information that they receive from their senses.
There are a number of versions but generally it works like this:
Get person to imagine being in a cinema
Ask them to vividly imagine everything they can about going to the cinema – the sights, sounds, smells... is the smell of popcorn coming to you, right now? … feelings, tastes … still thinking of popcorn, by any chance?
Remember as a child, being excited about going to the cinema … can you remember one now?
( Did you notice that question was actually a statement – a command. We are cranking up the senses. There’s good stuff to come! )
Get person to imagine taking seat in the cinema – “notice how it feels, notice the sounds and the smells and the other people” etc. etc.
( crank up the senses even more because there is great stuff to come! )
“Notice how you feel. Warm, cosy, excited … Can’t wait for the movie to start! … and just notice how safe you are! … Can’t wait for the movie to start … Bet you are feeling really excited right now!
( note the command )
”Now look at the screen and imagine your self back at the time when you were first scared 
Imagine yourself in the movie and notice how safe you are … Play the movie forwards to the end and notice how safe you were at the end of the movie … just like you were safe at the beginning … Just like you are now!”
“Now play the movie backwards, things always look funny when they run backwards, just like the old movies.
Play the movie forwards again … and backwards … and forwards … and backwards”
( I love pushing this exercise almost to the limit, repeating until I hear a laugh or a giggle or at least see a smile )
“Hold on! I’ve got some great music for our movie!”
I reach for my iPod, plug in into my speakers. Find Yakety Sax by Boots Randolph– The theme tune of The Benny Hill Show.
“Imagine floating out of your seat into the screen so you are in the movie now … Notice how safe you are”
( the commands flow quicker and more often - “You are Safe!”)
I grab my remote and issue the command “Play the movie Forwards!”
I hit play – the music starts
I hit pause – “Stop! Quick run the movie backwards!” … I hit play
I hit pause … “Stop! Play it forwards”
I hit play … “Stop!” … I hit pause
”Backwards! Quickly!” … I hit play
”STOP!” … I hit pause
”FORWARDS! QUICKLY!” … I hit play
“Backwards” .. “forwards” .. “backwards” .. “forwards” … allowing less and less time for the movie to run. By this stage they will be running the movie at double speed if not quicker!
“NOW! Float out of the movie back to your seat and run the movie” … I play the
music …
“NOW! Backwards! Watch yourself in the movie” … “Forwards Watch yourself” …
“Backwards. Watch yourself!” ……. etc etc
“AND float out of you seat into the projectionist room” … “You are the projectionist” …
“Start the movie” … “Run it backwards Watch yourself watching yourself” … “Forwards Watch yourself watching yourself”
Watch yourself watching the movie!
”Backwards” … “Forwards” … “Watch yourself” … “backwards” … “forwards” … “Keep watching yourself!”
( By this stage I’m usually laughing, they are usually laughing and my thumb hurts! )
“Backwards” .,. “Forwards” … “NOW! Float back to your seat!”
”Play it backwards” … “forwards” … “backwards” … “forwards” etc etc …. “AND STOP!”
I kill the music … there is silence … “How do you feel?”
Whilst the whole process has gone on, every time I’ve seen a smile of heard a laugh I have touched the client on the arm or shoulder, somewhere that is not intrusive, anchoring the good feeling and at the same time laughed or made a comedic noise.
At this stage just by making the comedic noise I can usually invoke a smile or laugh at will.
The brain cannot run fear and laugh at the same time successfully – I know the job is done when the client wants to go find a spider and that happened more than once!
So, How are you feeling now? Did you take yourself through the process?
Just show up!
your senses probably gave you some false evidence
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